Sunday, July 4, 2021

Breaking news! Rocky Horror Picture Show was a GO!


We went last night!

My daughter ordered a dress specifically for my wife to wear to RHPS, it arrived yesterday. How could I not want to go?  They had planned on yesterday being the day we go and it was a surprise for me.  Well, blow me down!  I had ordered a lace negligee online and it had arrived Thursday.  So I had no reason to not go.  And, knowing that my wife was interested AND willing to go out, go to a movie AND be seen in public with me IN A DRESS, how could I say no?

The thing I had bought was a black lace dress (?) with attached garters, spaghetti straps and an elastic collar.  If I had real breasts, the top may have looked ok without a bra but since I wasn't factory equipped with an ample bosom I chose to wear a black lace underwire bra filled with my largest breast forms.  The hem of the dress barely covered the bottom of my black panties and I chose to wear black seamed stockings.  My wife said she'd be uncomfortable wearing that in public but if I was ok, she wasn't the one wearing it!  I don't know that I like the way the lingerie looked on me but I will certainly wear it again because I enjoyed wearing it.

Digging through my closet, I found a forgotten sundresses and decided to wear it over my lingerie.  We got my wife ready to go, we hopped in the car, I filled the gas tank and headed out for the hour and a half drive. We arrived at my daughters' house, ate and then I show off my outfit.  We all had chosen to dress for the movie.  Older daughter chose to dress as a "low budget Magenta" and younger daughter was "Eddie."  Wife was also a "Magenta" in her new black dress and a handmade apron that my youngest had made YESTERDAY!  

After I showed off my outfit, I said to the daughters "the only thing I'm missing is a corset."  My youngest goes upstairs and brings to me a black corset. She said that she's never been able to wear it, we're about the same size.  She holds it up to me and tells me to turn. Turn, turn turn I go. We start clipping the retainers together and then she starts lacing the back. OMG. I've always wanted to try a real corset. It was literally breathtaking.  I mean when she was pulling the laces, I could feel the breath being squashed out of me. I was concerned that I'd have a hard time wearing it for a number of hours AND moving or sitting while wearing it but it wasn't an issue.  I wore it home!  The experience of wearing a corset was everything I'd hoped.

With my wife's disability, movement is difficult, walking is difficult and her asthma makes everything harder, still. She did ok!  We were able to find a decent parking space and sat in the car until the line had dissipated so we were able to walk right in to the theater and the last row seats were vacant.  Throughout the course of the film, I looked over to her and saw her smiling. 

I wore my sundress from their house to the theater but had butterflies when we got there.  There weren't many people really dressed up, yes lots of black but not so many who were over the top like me.  I just wore the dress into the theater but once we were seated, I pulled the dress off and didn't put it back on until long after we got to the car.  As we were walking out after the movie, I felt that I was an eyeful. I admit that I don't know how I feel about that level of attention but I loved my outfit.  Outside the building, one of the cast was standing by the door as I drove up to get my wife, she was asking why we didn't participate in the costume contest and we said "last row" and all that... I was still in the driver's seat... my wife said "you should see my husband" so I get out, walk around the car and show off my outfit, this was also a perfect time to say hug my kids as I hadn't said a proper goodbye.  The cast member was impressed by all of us.  I guess next time we'll go up when it's costume time.  The daughters walk to their car and being the protective parent that I am, I made sure they get safely to the car.  It was then that I chose to put my dress back on for the drive home.  I didn't want to take a chance driving home at a late hour, have some dumb reason to be stopped by a cop while wearing a scandalously small amount of clothing.  Of course, nothing happened.

On the way home, we stopped at a fast food place to get something cold to drink for the long drive. We talked and she told me it was great to see me acting goofy and participating in the movie. She was glad I was having fun and said we need to do this more frequently.  She had never seen it in a theater nor has she seen it in it's entirety. Her takeaway was that the movie was pretty odd.  She didn't like the ending and said that some of the scenes were disturbing, especially Eddie under the dining table.  I don't think my youngest daughter had seen it live but I had taken my oldest at least one time to see Rocky Horror with a live cast.  In the end, I had a nice day out. My kids had a great time. My wife had a great time.  Got home at 2:00 am. I was impressed that I didn't fall asleep during the film and had no sensation of wanting to sleep during the 70 mile drive.

Happy trails, friends.


And yes, there will be a next time. I cannot promise that my wife will go. That's okay.

Thursday, July 1, 2021

More plans, Rocky Horror Picture Show

 Good morning friends,

Apparently there is a local movie theater that screens Rocky Horror occasionally.  

My kids love that movie.  As a teen and into my early twenties I would go to the movies and watch Rocky Horror. We weren't participants who brought props or dressed up, just attendees who could be pretty raucous and often jumped into the aisles for the dance sequences and shouted when appropriate.  After graduation, the three of us didn't really go to the movies any more as we worked and our personal lives became more important than socializing.  A couple years after graduation from high school, I started dating the woman who is now my ex-wife.  The two of us would go to the movies after a late shift of work and see Rocky Horror. She became a fan. Again, we were never dressed for a part and as I was trying to impress her rather than scare her away.

My current wife is who told me about the showing.  I'm hoping she'll attend. She's never seen the movie. I told my daughters about the showing and they're planning to attend the screening.  I am planning to dress for the movie.  My plan is to find some black lingerie with garters, seamed stockings and heels to wear.  I'm going to be scandalously dressed in public!  I'm so looking forward to this.

Now to wait until I get back from my trip so we can go to the movies!


Tuesday, June 29, 2021

January 17? Where have I been? OMG!

 Hi friends,

Yeah, I guess it has been a while. I'm busy. Working. Volunteering. Family. Busy.

I've been out and about a couple of times in the months since I've visited my little blog.

Yes, I went with my wife for a drive to the candy store in Beatty, Nevada and afterward we had a picnic in the ghost town of Rhyolite, NV.  It was the first time the two of us went out with her and me out of the car, shopping with me dressed.  It was a fun day,.

In the middle of April, my wife and I bough a "new to us" used van.  It's 12 years newer than our newest vehicle with much lower mileage.

Shortly after buying the van, I went with my daughters to the "Pirate Fest" in Vegas back in April. I wore a peasant skirt and embroidered blouse that my ex-wife gave me.  We had gone back in 2018 and we'd had a good time. This one was the first big event in Vegas since "lockdown." There was a mix of people practicing Social Distancing and mask wearing and a mass who threw caution to the wind.  Aside from the nightmare of trying to park, we had a fantastic time.

On June 6, my wife and I took a long drive toward Reno, NV. We really only drove about 240 miles before turning back toward home but it was a nice drive out and about. I wore one of my favorite tops and skirt.   We turned around near the California border un US Rt 6.  It was nice to once again be out. if you're ever in the Tonopah, NV area, there are some amazing bits of history out there.  

And for some BIG news, I'm driving across the county! I will be renting a vehicle in Vegas and going on a long excursion to see my parents. The vehicle is a Dodge Grand Caravan being rented from a company that rents campervans. What I'm renting is going to be a regular passenger van. I'll be bringing my own supplies for camping. I'm going for two full weeks plus a few days.  Heather will be able to stop along the way to see some of my favorite places I've seen online. Did you know that there are webcams located along railroad lines?  We discovered a bunch of cameras on Youtube and have become huge fans. I hope to be able to be spotted on the webcams at a couple of the locations.

My goal is to stay at campgrounds along the way, stopping when I get tired.  I don't think I'll be outing myself to my parents or other family members but who knows.  When I get to the family homestead, I'm going to help deal with some of the clutter to make it easier to to access parts of the house that need to be repaired or replaced after 63 years, repairs include the replacing garage door, bedroom windows and front door.  With other things to be done in the future.  I have a feeling that I'll be very busy while I'm there. There is plenty to be done there. My Mom has told me that she's planning on packing up some stuff for me to bring back. I also have a few things I will be asking to take to clear space at the house. 

While I'm there, I will probably visit my wife's brother and maybe some of their friends and possibly her estranged sister to deliver some mementos.  I may be adventurous enough to visit brother as Heather but sister will meet the other persona. Her brother has close friends who have transgender children and I'm really not concerned about acceptance. Sister, if she's still living where she was, is a very, VERY conservative person who lives in a world where image, opinion and appearances are important. My wife drove across country and sister was uncomfortable with my wife sleeping in her car in the driveway because "what would the neighbors say?!?"

Okay, it's nearly midnight. 

I'll post more soon.


Sunday, January 17, 2021

A day out.

 Hello friends,

Big day, today.

We (wife and I) went for a drive. It isn't always easy to get my spouse out of the house but it was mostly her idea.

We drove two towns to the north of ours, really in the middle of nowhere but on the main highway to the north about 75 miles away.

The big deal is that it was the first trip where we got out of the car and interacted with the public. We went to a tourist trap/candy store. It was the first time my spouse went shopping with Heather. I didn't look at people to judge their reactions but the place was fairly busy. The funniest part was when I was paying, my spouse got the pronouns mixed up and I didn't even care! I just had a fun time shopping with her.

After the shopping excursion, we went to an abandoned townsite and had lunch. I had prepared a couple sandwiches, bagged some oranges and bottled water, brought some patio chairs and a little table and we parked off a dirt road and enjoyed our little lunch. There is a National Park Service vault toilet, I used it. Possibly the most unoffensive vault toilet I've ever used. As I was standing over the seat, someone knocks and twists the handle... I quickly said, "Hey." and he closed the door. That would have been an uncomfortable situation, me in a skirt and nylons, standing to pee and a dude walks in...

We drove home and picked up a prescription for my wife at the drive-up pharmacy window. I didn't even take out my breast forms.

Thanks for stopping by..


Saturday, December 12, 2020

Visibility. Life in the open?


I'm still using Facebook. I know that there are plenty of people who say DELETE FACEBOOK! I have family members who use it, my 82 year old Mom can access my FB and see what her siblings and friends of our family are doing. I won't be deleting Facebook.  I will say that I’m not joining the new, upstart social media websites. Although I identify as a Democrat, I will not join the Democrat focused “Liker dot com” and you know for certain that I won’t join the Republican focused “parler dot com.” I already waste far too much time staring at computer screens between my job and time at home. 

I digress. I have Facebook. When I created my account, I never posted a profile photo of me. Instead, I posted a picture of my Suzuki motorcycle.  For ten years, the bike was my “me” photo.

Halloween 2020 comes. Heck, 2020 itself. The year has been... something else, am I right?  I decided that I loved my Halloween outfit and all that it meant to me. For the first time ever, I was going to change my profile photo. Red wig, bullet bra, pink skirt, Heather is me. I know that.

My friends here know me as Heather.

My wife loves me as Heather.

2/3 of my kids know I’m Heather.

Even my ex-wife is aware of Heather.

Visibility? Yes. 

It's fun. I feel great when I "like" or comment on stories in my FB timeline about LGBTQ issues, but especially transgender issues with my photo.  I hope that when a person questioning whether it's ok to live a genuine life, as their true self sees me commenting as my birthname in my feminine finery, they can feel a bit stronger, more confident and empowered.  

It’s fun? Yes. Especially when reading conservative media outlets Facebook postings. It brings great pleasure to comment as birthname with a photo of me, especially when someone gets so uptight that they feel the need to get rude. Rudeness brings out the “report comment” function for bullying, harassment or other inappropriate manner. Blocking works, too.

I wonder how much repression some people have experienced to think it’s okay to be completely filled with hate. 

I tried to set up a Heather Facebook page but the algorithms fought me and wouldn't let me fully activate my account and I refused to send the personal information requested.  I could change my account’s name to Heather instead of birthname, I don’t want to. 

Have a great weekend!

Much love, 


ps. No, I'm not living full time as Heather. I still have my own personal demons and fears to deal with. I have to live and work in this repressed town. 

Sunday, November 8, 2020

Good morning to everyone.

 Welcome to a new version of America, one which will reflect the diversity of our great nation. I'm pleased that Joe Biden and Kamala Harris have won the most important election of our lifetimes but if anyone believes that I won't call them out if they act in an un-American manner, you're sorely mistaken. Nobody gets a pass. I may be anti-trump and anti-GOP but admittedly Joe wasn't my first choice. In the end, he was the only choice and one I was proud to make. I watched the speeches last night by both Kamala and Joe. I felt included. I felt like for the first time in four years, I matter. Again, if the Biden administration pulls any hinkey BS I will be among the first to call them out.

Earthquake in Massachusetts! Was it the Earth letting out a sigh of relief?

Alex Trebek died. Nooo! What is Rest in Peace, Alex?

Today is day ten of having pink nails. I decided to not remove the color. I went to work Monday, Tuesday and half of Wednesday when I reported for jury duty. I sat in wait for the grilling by the DA and defense attorneys and apparently passed muster. The trial is estimated to take three weeks. Three weeks away from my office. When I left on Wednesday we were about two days behind. I cannot imagine how bad it will be when I return. To add insult to injury, another worker from my office  was seated on the jury.

I had suggested that I should attend the jury selection in my pink skirt in hopes that it would get me out of it. Instead I only have the nearly invisible pink nails. I think the women in the jury room are curious but unsure of whether it's appropriate to ask about them. 

I'm hoping that I'll be able to enjoy this Sunday out of the house in a skirt and blouse but am unsure if my spouse will feel motivated to go along. The weather is cold and snow is reported in elevations above 5000 ft. This is concerning because I don't really want to drive in "weather." We'll see.

Time to sign off.

Thanks for spending time with me on a chilly Sunday morning.

Go out and spread some sunshine!


Tuesday, November 3, 2020


 Last Wednesday, I had my nails done. I've never had gel polish applied to my nails. When I paint my nails, I use regular nail polish and it never seems to last very long before it chips or is damaged.  I made the decision to not remove the polish. Yesterday was a work day, I proudly wore my pink nails to the office. I love the way my nails look, so smooth and shiny.