Wednesday, December 25, 2019

Naughty? Or Nice?

First up, two blog posts in one day? Yes there are!

Hello and greetings from Christmas Evening.

I had suggested to my wife yesterday to go for a drive today as we're not doing anything to celebrate the holiday.  At about 1:30 this afternoon we finally trundled out of the house and into our SUV.  We had decided to visit a nearby nature sanctuary/wildlife refuge.  I'd been there before on my motorcycle and explored some of the refuge about 3 summers ago. 

I think we drove just over sixty miles, probably twenty of them on dirt, gravel and mud road surfaces.  I had intended to wear my tights under a skirt but instead chose to wear nylons, comfy blue skirt and a camisole.   The best part is that my wife took photos of our adventure. I'm working on trying to upload one. Keeping anonymity with the photo is tough.  I will figure it out, soon.

The amazing part of our trip was seeing the amount of water there was in the desert.  We've had rain in the last few days so it is not surprising to see run-off but to have seen huge areas covered with water was pretty amazing.  If we didn't have a body of water 100' along the road at both sides, I'd be shocked. 

The first part of the drive, heading out of town, we had three cars following us. Once I hit the dirt, there were no other cars until we hit the "main" road into the refuge.  I think we saw four other vehicles and then nothing until we got back on pavement.  With so little traffic, a straight road, clear line of sight, it may make for a interesting place to take more photos in the future.  Maybe, just maybe I'll bring more than one outfit next time. I've always wanted to be a bit naughty!

Heading back to town it was close to dinner time.  I chickened out, I admit it.  I ditched the skirt and put pants on to go into the Chinese restaurant but wore a lilac top, festive nails and dangling earrings.

Have a great night,


Merry Christmas to my friends

On this Christmas day, I hope you find peace, joy and happiness. Remember that the spirit inside you is much more important than any material gifts.

I'm hoping to be able to have a full day as Heather with two more over the weekend. The past weekend was nice even though we didn't "do" anything. I had no outside obligations and did my nails in a festive, alternative red and green pattern, wore my new tights, a knit top and cute skirt. I was beyond comfortable.

Monday mornings always make me wonder why I've not just come out to the world.  I feel a sense that I'm letting myself down by not being true to me all the time.  I've expressed this before.  My employer is progressive and bars discrimination against any gender expression. I just need to be me. 

Skipping back two paragraphs, I liked my nails so much... I got up, fed the cat, changed out of my nightgown and into a top and leggings to get the morning newspaper and then painted my nails in the same alternating red and green pattern!  I almost kept my nails painted Monday morning. Coulda, woulda, shoulda...  It's going to be a crossdressed Christmas in my house. 

I love to wear my leggings! I think I have four pair. Three black and one grey, two from Costco that are almost like tights/nylons. Super form fitting and relatively thin. The other two are more like knit pants. I love how they feel and think they really make my legs look terrific.   Just more ramblings.... Blabbering about nails and leggings? Yep! I have 45 years of Heather that didn't get to express herself and sometimes she's just easily distracted by shiny things.

Back to the original thought,
Merry Christmas.

Love to all, peace to everyone and thank you for visiting my blog.


Sunday, December 22, 2019

Hello everyone.

In the days since my last update, I've been busy. Work's been busy. For the first time, I've been asked to work overtime!  My family has been busy. My parents have been a handful for my older sister. I have felt like my days have been non-stop. My spouse has been struggling with physical and emotional health issues. I have the job and the responsibility to keep the house running. I'm not complaining, just expressing the facts. I love my wife dearly and I respect her limitations and she respects the challenges faced by me and supports me. I'm thinking I need another vacation!

On "Black Friday" I visited the L'eggs, Hanes, Bali website and checked out the specials. I've discovered the glory of tights. For the first time, I read the sizing instructions for legwear. Being a bigger person, I chose a size 3x "blackout" tights and absolutely love them and the way they fit.  I've worn nylons before, but these things are amazing. So much more comfortable than anything before. On my wish list will be more of these.

It's been cold and I've not had a chance to go outside but am looking forward to spending a day out within the next week. I don't know what kind of activity I'll enjoy but Heather is going out, and soon! With the tights, a nice skirt, I look nice. 

The new year is almost upon us. We see the promise of the future while having a chance to reflect on the previous months.  A close family member "came out" a year ago and now she's told us that she has a person with whom she'd like to share her life. 

We all must make the most of our days and consider the choices we make on a daily basis. How we present ourselves to our communities, the values we share, the ideals we embrace and who we support/stand behind/stand alongside.  I won't be preachy or too vocal in this forum. I reserve that for other outlets.  But please consider the choices you make. Whether it's a decision to actively recycle, supporting local businesses or putting your support behind the right causes and candidates

I'll say it again, in the coming year I hope to have more opportunity for Heather to be in public. With the "I'm thinking I need another vacation" comment, I really think Heather needs to visit her parents. Traveling is a bit scary but I think I reeeeallllly need to make it happen.

Thanks for stopping in. Sorry if I'm all over the map with my thoughts.

If you celebrate, Happy Hanukkah, Merry Christmas, Happy New Year, Joyous Festivus, Happy Kwanzaa. Happy Solstice. Happy Yule. If I missed your chosen celebration, my wishes are with you!

Peace, joy and love to all,


Thursday, October 31, 2019

Another Halloween in the books.

9:30 pm Halloween night, we just finished dinner.  It's been a long day.  The office had a potluck today, I brought a cake.  I didn't prepare my look and outfit as well as I'd liked but I think I did well.  Apparently, we've got a bit of a flu bug making a tour around the office and 3 or 4 of 20 were out sick today so we didn't have many of the women dressed for the big day. I kept my part of the deal by dressing as a mix of Blanche and Dorothy and E played the part of Rose. We had a Grinch and a couple of people wore tops with Jack O Lanterns.  J told me that I should just wear skirts every day...  We did Trunk or Treat from 6 to 8, well we went until we were out of candy and sat in a cold van for a while until we were able to safely drive away.  No going out for dinner, no going to the casino or winning the big prize.  I was tired, we were tired, and cold.

Between getting a couple slices of pumpkin pie and putting semi coherent thoughts to this blog, I'm thinking that it is time to go to bed.  The furnace is on. A warm bed is calling.

Good night, Moon!

Thanks for stopping by and...

Happy Halloween!


Tuesday, October 29, 2019

Two days 'til Heather goes to work

Halloween is getting closer. The excitement and nervousness are building. 

My first year and second years, I was the first employee our customers saw when they came into the office.  It was fun.  I don't recall anyone speaking ill of me, directly.  Last year I was behind the scenes and didn't really have much contact with customers in the office.  For 2019, I'm going to be up front again!  I'm going to love the contact with everyone. I always have a smile on my face and in my voice when dealing with our customers.  I don't know how many co-workers are playing along. One of the women has a serious medical issue and won't be in, another is a party pooper and my "partner in crime" will be dressed in some kind of non standard work outfit.  I'm begging her to be a "Golden Girl" with me!

I've shown most of the women in the office the photo of my outfit. One woman even cancelled her day off because she wanted to be there for Halloween!  My skirt suit is washed and only needs to be pressed to be ready for the big day. 

We're also doing the "trunk or treat" again.  This year, it will be from 6 - 8 pm.  I'm going to be a bit chilly but it will be SOOOOO worth it.

Talk to y'all later


Saturday, October 19, 2019

Three quick bits. Quick? LOL!

Shopping for the outfit.  When we went to the Renaissance Fair, we were also supposed to find something to wear to work on Halloween.  The timing wasn't right and I chose to only do the fair with the daughters.  I had to go to the city again on Sunday and I knew that there would be plenty of time to find something.  I had laid out a plan to check out Kohls, Dress Barn and Target.  I tossed those plans in the bin and went to a Savers store near the house of my daughters.  I hadn't been successful lately finding anything I like at that location but gave it a go, just in case there was some spectacular outfit for our group "Golden Girls" plan.

I found a couple of interesting tops, a nice "peasant skirt," and a pretty floral dress.  All had the right "look" but none were perfect.  There was a nice velour top with an attached beaded blazer in the formal aisle but I was not able to match it to a skirt.  I'd settled on the idea of the dress with a blazer over it.  Then I found a two-piece yellow suit, short sleeve blazer and very pleated skirt.  New with tags, even!  Huge shoulder pads, too!  Perfect for a late 80's early 90's old lady look!  My only concern is that I'm going to look like Big Bird.  I'll need to get stockings or something for my legs and maybe a sheer blouse for under the blazer.  I bought the pretty floral dress, it's even reversible. 

After doing the necessary errands, I went back to see my daughters and their Mom.  I'd replaced my shoes with sandals after the temperature climbed and still have my toenails painted from the Ren Fair.  My ex asks who does my nails. Me. It's all me.  I haven't had a professional mani-pedi since 1989.  She was saying that her boyfriend has nasty toenails. (Without paint, my big toes aren't great.) I told her that we need to schedule a spa day for the bunch of us.  Now to get him onboard with the plan.  I then went on to tell her about the three saucy wenches at the Ren Fair.  She loved the way the three of us looked.

On the way home, I called Mom and Dad.  Mostly to say hello but also to tell them about seeing the daughters.  We chatted for a while and I told them about attending the Ren Fair, ALL about the Ren Fair.  They were once again impressed with my ability to be Heather.

I've also told the women at work about the yellow skirt suit.  The "Golden Girls" is publicly known so I had to brag that I've already got my Halloween outfit.  One co-worker said she thinks I enjoy buying women's clothing more than anything.  She does have a point but I'd rather wear them than buy them.

I have a feeling my "big secret" is not so much of a secret.

Have a great day and thanks for visiting,


Monday, October 14, 2019

3 Saucy Wenches at the Renaissance Fair

We went to the fair and I've spent my second day dressed in public within two weeks.  Life is good.

The original plan for Saturday was to spend a couple of hours finding something to wear for Halloween with one daughter and then pick up the other daughter and go to the fair.  Reality is always different from the plan.  I left about 30 minutes later than I'd planned and learned while driving that both daughters were interested in going shopping.  I arrive at their home to find that reality is always different from the plan!  They weren't quite ready and once they were, we decided to just head to the fair.  I'll update later about shopping for the Halloween outfit.  It's pretty great!

When daughter 2 and I went to Pirate Fest last year, I never felt comfortable with myself.  Because of that, I kept my large hat low and covering my face.  After finding self-confidence in Provincetown, I had no problem feeling comfortable.  I wore my hat over a long bandana to keep the sun off my head but it never was covering my face nor did I walk with my head held low.  After the sun was lower in the sky, I removed the hat and just wore my bandana. 

We strolled the fair for about six hours.  In that time, we: met up with friends of both daughters, enjoyed a picnic lunch and visited many of the merchants.  The other attendees were dressed in clothes ranging from average street clothes to elaborate Renaissance garb to Highland garb to Pirate to Anime to CosPlay to Furry to almost nothing.  "Almost nothing" woman was wearing a chainmail bikini with a single "string" of chain in back. 

Walking through to fair, I saw some people who I think may have been participating in the cross-play as I was.  Their choices of attire were pretty amazing.  Kind of a SteamPunk look in black with the trenchcoat and so-high heeled boots.  Another was just in a medieval style peasant dress.

Our day was well spent at the fair.  Three saucy wenches were out and about.

Thanks for stopping by and reading my story!